Advice for People Who Are Dating

Today we start Called to Be, a series of blog posts on the vocation of marriage, written by Melanie Jean Juneau. Our guest blogger – who is is the administrator of the Association of Catholic Women Bloggers, Editor in Chief for Catholic Stand, and regularly posts on joy of nine9 – shares with us her story and reflections for the next few weeks. Stay tuned!

Many young people wait secretly for their knight in shining armour to whisk them off their feet so they can live happily ever after. Although we laugh at such ridiculous fantasies as the stuff of naive, lovesick teenagers, we all must face the deep temptation within ourselves to seek out a future partner to fulfil all of our needs. We have been ‘brainwashed’ by Hollywood’s romantic movies.

The truth is, counter to what secular society would lead us to believe, only God can meet our core need for love. Countless marriages end in divorce because women have embraced the crazy notion that the man of their dreams will completely satisfy and fulfill them. This is a lie.

If you want to get married, seek the face of God, trust him and he just might drop someone in your path.

Marriage is just as much a vocation as Holy Orders. My husband once asked God to find him a wife and then forgot all about it as he dedicated a year to Madonna House in Combermere, Ontario, Canada. The next year he spent another year at his local parish where he lived in the residence with an ill priest and helped him run the parish. A few years later, while travelling across Canada, he stopped in to see a friend, Steve, who was a parish worker but a note on the door explained Steve had taken his youth group on a picnic.

Michael came over to my house to wait because I lived with Steve’s fiancé. As soon as Michael saw me, he knew I was the one for him. He says he saw stars. Michael still swears prayer is the best method for finding a spouse.

Despite my blindness to the truth, the Father showered his grace and mercy on me and my husband, Michael, even in the very first days of our courtship. Surprisingly, we have become one in reality, deeply in tune with each other’s spirits even though we are still opposites in personality. Our tangible joy is inexplicable through secular eyes because from all outward appearances our life together has been a tough journey through poverty, raising nine kids, facing overwhelming chores on a small family farm and dealing with long-term, clinical depression. As a result, we have been married for 39 years and after a difficult life, we are happy and still in love.


Suggested reading:
Beloved – An essential spiritual companion for married and engaged couples




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11 comments on “Advice for People Who Are Dating

  1. A special author and mother who has much to teach and impart to the young.

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